Custody Battle Turns Ugly: A Father’s Struggle for His Right, and an Ex-Wife’s Dishonorable Actions

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By Jacob Maslow

In a gripping display of child custody interference, I have been denied access to my 14-year-old son on my legally appointed day of custody. This disheartening incident followed a call from my neighbor, who informed me that my ex and son were shopping at the local strip mall. I ran right over because I have had no communication with my son for over three months.

 But, this was more than a phone call; it was a harbinger of an emotionally tumultuous day for a father yearning to spend time with his son. The painful reality of a custody battle had rarely been so starkly etched, and I am unsure what to do next, who would support me, or who would protect my right to be in my child’s life.

Subsequently, the day meant to be a celebration of familial love transformed into a battlefield, and I feel that my son and I have been caught in the crossfire. My only goal was to exercise my rightful and court-ordained role as a father, a role threatened by my ex-spouse’s unlawful machinations. Never in my many years have I met someone who has gone to such lengths to make my life miserable and deprive a child of a valuable presence and role model.

The Police Reiterate My Role: A Father’s Rights Supposedly Protected

Upon consultation, local police firmly reinforced my right to see my son on my day, underlining the inviolability of the custody agreement as long as I do not enter my ex-wife’s residence – a stipulation I respect specifically because of the law and the emotionally charged circumstances. They ensured I was within my rights, a small but significant reassurance amidst the chaos my ex-wife was instigating.

Yet, the legal framework could offer little consolation to me as I stood on the doorstep, my heart heavy with the knowledge that my son would not be able to see me because of my ex-wife’s (Carol Grinberg AKA Carol Maslow) machinations. Was I supposed to call the police and ask them to come to the home? What type of impact would that have on my son? Nothing less than dastardly and unlawful interference was getting in the way of the relationship between me and my son. 

Unlawful Interference: A Mother’s Breach of Trust

My ex-wife, crossing the bounds of legal propriety and ethical conduct, flagrantly interfered with my custody rights. Accusing me of harassment, even though I was talking to my son inside the mall, she barred me from speaking to my son on my court-appointed day, a direct contradiction to her prior claims in a court of having no objection to the father having custody every Thursday. Nobody can trust the words coming out of her mouth. Her actions manifested a stunning disregard for the rule of law and a lack of respect for the father’s rightful role. 

My ex-wife’s obstruction extended beyond violating the court’s ruling. It reflected a deep-seated disdain for the father’s parental role and shattered the mutual trust that should underline any shared custody agreement. Her unfounded accusations of harassment added an extra layer of emotional stress to an already fraught situation, impacting me and my son.

An Unexpected Intrusion: More Harassment

To exacerbate the already tense situation, my ex-wife enlisted the help of an imposing woman known for her bullying behavior, Marnina Spiezer Coutino,  as a physical barrier between my son and me. This individual invaded my personal space, harassing me and significantly contributing to obstructing the court-ordered custody agreement. Her presence was a physical manifestation of the mother’s illegitimate interference and only worsened the situation. 

This woman, a complete outsider in a deeply personal conflict, had no right to insert herself into this difficult situation. Her actions only amplified the stress and discomfort experienced by me and my son. This unwanted physical contact and persistent harassment magnified the distress of being barred from his son. Who was she, and why was she even there? She had no right or relation to me or my son. 

Legal Recourse? A Fight for Justice Continues

Despite these tribulations, I am taking a stand against these unacceptable actions. There is no evidence that my son doesn’t wish to speak with me, so I have filed complaints against both my ex-wife for her unlawful interference and the woman who physically prevented me from reaching his son. I am writing this as an earnest plea to the public and the legal system to protect fathers’ rights. The court now faces a pressing case that speaks volumes about the anguish of a father embroiled in a confusing and hotly contested custody battle and the need for strict adherence to court-ordered custody arrangements.

This case, echoing through the halls of justice, is a desperate cry for reform. It highlights the dire need for stricter enforcement of custody arrangements and stricter penalties for those who flout them. Every child deserves the love and attention of both parents, and every parent deserves the right to provide that love. My struggle is my own and a fight for all parents unjustly separated from their children.

Tips to Deal with Parental Alienation and Custody Interference:

1. Establish clear boundaries early on and ensure both parents stick to them.

2. Follow court orders and document any violations of those orders.

3. Be patient and remain positive in interactions with your ex-wife, even if her behavior is difficult to ignore or forgive.

4. Seek professional help from mental health practitioners, mediators, or counselors to address persistent issues and support the co-parenting relationship.

5. Consider joining a support group for parents dealing with parental alienation or custodial disputes to find comfort in the shared experience of others going through similar circumstances.

6. Make sure your child has a safe space to express their feelings without fear of retribution from either parent.

7. Remain consistent in your parenting, and don’t waiver regarding rules or expectations for behavior.

8. Be sure that both parents have a regular contact schedule with the child, as this not only reinforces the importance of their relationship but also helps protect against alienation by one parent.

9. Utilize technology such as video-conferencing to ensure that both parents can still interact with their child despite the distance between them.

10. If necessary, take legal action to enforce court orders and protect yourself and your children from potential harm caused by non-compliance with custody agreements.

Ultimately, dealing with parental alienation is difficult and requires patience, understanding, and compassion for anyone else involved. The community must work together to ensure that justice is served and the safety of all individuals is respected. With these tips in mind, we can work towards creating a safe environment where families are free from manipulation and alienation.



How can I protect myself if someone is harassing me?

Document and save all text messages, emails, and any other evidence that shows the destructive behavior of the individual in question. Carefully monitor your communication with them and always maintain a respectful tone. Alert authorities if you feel threatened or unsafe, speak to trusted friends or family members so they can provide emotional support during this time, seek professional help from counselors or therapists who specialize in dealing with these kinds of situations, and consider taking legal action to protect yourself as well as others who may be affected by the same individual’s actions in the future.

What should I do if someone is continuously attacking me?

Reach out for help from friends, family, and professionals. Document all communication with the individual in question and save relevant evidence. Contact authorities to report any behavior that makes you feel unsafe or threatened. Consider taking legal action to protect yourself and others who may be affected by their actions in the future.

What can I do if someone is trying to manipulate me?

Recognize signs of manipulation, such as extreme flattery, guilt-tripping, gaslighting, etc., and take steps to protect yourself from them. Be aware of your emotions and reactions to them so you don’t fall victim to their manipulation tactics. If necessary, enlist the help of trusted friends or family members for emotional support during this time. Seek professional help from counselors or therapists who specialize in dealing with these situations. Consider taking legal action to yourself and others affected by the same individual’s actions in the future.

How can I raise awareness about this issue?

Reach out to your circle by sharing your story and experiences, and encourage others to do the same if they have had similar experiences. Connect with organizations that focus on protecting victims from harassment and retaliation, raising awareness through collective action such as protests or educational campaigns, and building support systems for those affected by retaliatory behaviors. Share information about laws and policies related to protection against retaliatory behavior so that more people know their rights. Finally, use your social media platforms to spread the word and comment on related topics.


Retaliatory behavior is a serious problem in our society, and it is important to protect yourself if you ever find yourself in such a situation. Remember that some people will support you through these difficult times, so seek help if needed. Finally, document all evidence of retaliatory behavior and consider taking legal action if necessary. By staying informed about our rights and raising awareness in our communities, we can work together to ensure that no one has to suffer from this type of abuse ever again.

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